The Third Date: Where Connections Deepen and Futures Unfold
They say third time’s the charm, and it can definitely feel like that when you’re seeing someone. By the time your third date rolls around, you have a pretty good idea whether you want there to be a fourth, a fifth, or more. This can be exciting but also lead to nerves, because what if the other person doesn’t feel the same? Let’s look at the third date rule and offer some third date tips.
What is the third date rule?
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The third date rule is a dating maxim that says you should wait until the 3rd date to have sex. It was popularized by Sex and the City, but does it really hold up in today’s dating world? A lot of people say it’s okay to kiss on the first date but what then?
Waiting three dates can heighten the anticipation. Not sleeping together right away can heighten the tension and make sex better when it does happen
A rule that says waiting to have sex is good might carry implied judgements of people who don’t, especially women
Waiting lets you get to know the other person better: First impressions aren’t always the best ones. Waiting until the third date gives you time to form a more complete picture of the person you’re with.
It adds unnecessary pressure: Having a hard and fast rule about the number of dates you should go on can make people feel like they should be ready for sex by a certain calendar point, which is not always the case.
Every relationship is different – it’s less a question of ‘should’ and more of what feels right for you and your partner.
Third date tips
If you’ve made it to the third date, congratulations! However, your third date can bring with it all kinds of pressure – even without the third date rule, three dates is still a lot of time to spend with someone. Make the most of it with these third date tips:
Choose your activity carefully
By now, you should have a good idea of what the other person is like. Pick a date idea that works for both of you but that also gives you plenty of time and opportunity to actually talk to each other – think wandering around a museum or a park rather than a movie or a concert. You want to be able to have deep conversations. Speaking of…
Ask tough questions
If you aren’t aware of your partner’s stances on issues important to you, now is the time to ask. You don’t want to wake up months or even years into a relationship to find out that your partner wants kids while you don’t, or that the two of you fundamentally disagree on politics. Yes, it can be awkward, but better your third date than your third anniversary.
Let go of any expectations
It’s easy to build your third date up to something far more than it is. Remember – it’s just a date! If it goes well, great. If it doesn’t, you can always ask for a chance to make it up (if you want) or break it off. Reminding yourself that a third date’s meaning is only as significant as you make it.
Be honest
Pretending to be someone you’re not isn’t just unsustainable – it’s also unfair on both you and your partner. If you really like someone, it’s all too easy to adjust yourself to their expectations of you. Resist the temptation – wouldn’t you rather they like you for you?
Be prepared
Let’s be clear, the third date rule isn’t a thing and you should feel no obligation to do anything you don’t wholeheartedly want to. However, if sex on the third date is on the table, be smart about it. Get tested, talk to your partner about what is and isn’t okay and where both of your boundaries are when it comes to getting physical.
Third dates are only as important as you make them
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