Why millenial couples aren't rushing into marriage?

Posted by Sidney, 06 Jun 18

People have been known to be rushing into saying "I do". But not millennial couples. According to a report, couples in the U.S. aged 25 to 34 seem to be waiting. They make time to know each other first, taking an average of six and a half years.

The reason behind it seems to be their priorities have changed. More focus is put on career advancement first. Even the women seem to be following this trend too. Plus these couples tend to wait to have children too. Anthropologist Hellen Fisher is calling it "fast sex, slow love".  It seems to be the modern way of dating.

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In her article, Fisher believes casual sex might be improving marriage. In fact, there are people who reported to have had one night stands turn to long-term relationships. A majority of couples who have been in long cohabiting relationships are afraid of the consequences of divorce. This could be the reason why they are choosing long-term committed relationships before tying the knot. As Fisher puts it: "Couples want to get to know everything about a potential life partner before they tie the knot," calling it "the age of slow love".

Speaking of casual sex, people jump into bed too fast. Reckless? One can argue that. But then again if you think about it:

"... you learn a lot about a person between the sheets. You might even kick-start a real relationship: Any stimulation of the genitals promotes dopamine activity, which can potentially push you over the threshold into falling in love. At orgasm, oxytocin, and vasopressin—neurochemicals linked with feelings of attachment—spike. With just one night of casual sex, risky as it is, you may win life’s greatest prize: a devoted mating partner."

Now, what the millennial trend is: casual sex first. Then whatever follows next seems to be calculated. If the sex went well, it turns into "friends with benefits". Then maybe a long-term commitment if that goes well. And most of the time, they don't rush to the altar. They just move in together to taste the waters. And even when they get married, there are the prenups to be signed. It's all just caution.

Attachment takes time. So the concept of slow makes sense. So sex comes first then marriage. The longer you know your partner, higher the chances of being in a happy relationship. So take your time.

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  1.   Prismatic says:
    Posted: 05 Oct 18

    The millennials who have been dating 2+ years and haven't gotten married are either not financially stable enough to do so or they aren't sure the person they are with is the one they want to marry. But some of my friends have gotten married after a year or two of dating. Don't believe all these articles coming out saying millennials aren't getting married or prefer a FWB/short term relationships.

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  2.   Wilhelm63 says:
    Posted: 07 Jun 18

    I agree with what Paganinifan said. Sometimes the truth hurts!

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  3.   Paganinifan says:
    Posted: 07 Jun 18

    "They make time to know each other first, taking an average of six and a half years." You're not gonna like my response to this but here goes.... This is NOT what they're doing. See, this thing called "feminism", it's this cancer that's destroying our women. Making them basically HATE men while deciding to be "sexually liberated" (thanks to the idiotic liberal left agenda) and SLEEP AROUND with various men UNTIL they GROW UP and realize that it's quite NATURAL to want COMMITTED COMPANIONSHIP. But the liberal left teaches ....BRAINWASHES young people into believing that a family unit is somehow DEGRADING to women. So do yourself a favor before you write articles about millenials - RESEARCH! Go talk to die hard feminists and see what they have to say about marriage and family. Then write an article. I'm sure it will turn out much different. :)

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    • amireal says:
      Posted: 10 Jun 18

      To be honest I dont believe in jumping into bed but i won't support rushing into marriege either or even the six years dating..before marriage. .all this concept it's someone's idea to make them feel comfortable.what works for one might not for someone else.

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